Spoonie and other chronic illness health reminder of the day: if all you can manage to make or eat today is “junk” food, then good job, you fed yourself. That’s the main thing. You need calories, your body needs them for energy, and you deserve to eat them, however you manage to get them. I know it’s not always ideal, but sometimes you just gotta eat.
So sick and tired of seeing “it’s really simple to eat your way healthy” posts, especially from other people with chronic health conditions who should know better. Yes, Susan, I know how simple and easy it is to make nourishing bone broth, but are you also going to stand in my kitchen for 8 hours while it simmers, do everything else I need to do today, then strain it out, clean up everything and feed it to me too? Oh you managed to make huge batches of it while you had energy and are now able to pull it out of the freezer? Well aren’t you profoundly lucky to be able to do that.
Stop shitting on people who can’t.
And if I see anymore of y’all posting “honestly people who don’t even try to eat healthily deserve to stay sick” posts I’m going to climb out of your garbage disposal like Truth hauling ass out of her well and smack you with your own ladle, so help me gods.
Stop it. You should know better than this. It’s a fucking fucked up fact that “good” food is a luxury for a lot of sick and disabled people, who are often under employed or relying on welfare to survive. It is so absolutely fucked up that not everyone can afford fresh groceries every week or has the means to cook them. But don’t you dare try to imply it’s because they’re not trying hard enough and deserve to be sick. What the fuck is wrong with you. Go sit in the corner.
I’m done spoon feeding you human decency for the day.
“It’s one thing to ask audiences to suspend belief for this fairy tale, and it’s a whole other thing to ask them to consider for one moment that an otherwise sane woman would be so desperate as to fall for a creature who can’t even survive on dry land–not when there are actual men in this town.”
Haha man someone tell this dude that he is not the hot commodity that he thinks he is and personally speaking I for one am eager to get away from actual men and be whisked into the loving arms of a fishman.
id fuck a fish monster before even giving my number to a man who admits his best quality is being able to survive on dry land
I actually read the review, and it seems the writer is utterly unsure why any woman would want to fuck a fish. So I decided to explain why anyone would want to fuck Monsters.
It’s explained why in the damn trailer. The lovely princess is practically hysterical when she says that the fish man doesn’t see her as ‘missing parts’. He never sees her muteness, the fact that she isn’t ‘whole’. The fact that her prince can learn to love, accept her, and show her kindness without any pity or seeing her as ‘broken’ is why she falls in love with him.
In a society that is quick to judge who is ‘,broken’ , ‘fractured’, or ‘not right’, Monsters are appealing because they wouldn’t rely on human conventions to make the choice to love you. You can be beautiful, amazing, and well…you. The idea is that the Monster won’t spurn you, for being yourself.
In this world full of people, how many can say that they were accepted for all their flaws and faults? Does this reviewer honestly think so highly of himself, to not be able to understand a basic lesson on acceptance?
Very few people in this world are accepting. However the things not of this world, maybe they’re the keys to a happier future.
Ok but real talk…
Five bucks says this guy never thinks it’s weird that there are sexy pin-up mermaids
The guy is a woman.
Although most the above comments are still relevant, the truth is even worse than the usual male narcissist gamer who throws a tantrum when not everything is about him. Look how she qualifies the heroin : “
the otherwise normal cleaning woman.
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Like… it’s one thing to try to avoid to be ableist, it’s another thing to just simply ignore how a disability can shape and influence someone’s place in a society, especially when it’s damn shown in the movie. Did the reviewer miss that Elisa is mute and, for men of the movie, she is everything but “otherwise normal.” This is the whole thing. The lovers understand and get together because they are both outcasts and othered. Even when you watch the trailer you see it. How can you miss it the whole movie long.
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The Shape of Water focuses on how Elisa’s solitude and yearning for love makes her so desperate that she falls into the arms of a creature who can’t even survive on dry land
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Ok, where do you think Elisa’s solitude comes from. And she falls for the creature because he’s the best choice here, not the consolation prize.
why are so many people more horrified by the fact that I have to take multiple medications daily than by the fact that I am in severe chronic pain every day?
People can understand the risk of taking lots of medications and side effects.
They can’t even begin to wrap their minds around the idea that people could possibly live in that much constant pain. They can’t even imagine it being possible, even if you assure them it is, so they warn you against the thing they’re actually capable of understanding, instead of stopping to think that their understanding might be flawed.
My mother’s warning was that “all medication has side effects.” But it didn’t seem to occur to her that not taking the medication also has side effects.
The term you’re confusing a-spec for is probably ASD
Autism Spectrum Disorder
Because, yes, autism is a spectrum
But it’s always been called the autism spectrum and literally no-one says “a-spec” to refer to the autism spectrum
Much like autism, asexuality and aromanticism are ALSO spectrums
So together they are “a-spec” and individually they are “ace-spec” and “aro-spec”
So fuck you
as an autistic person who recently learned from my therapist that a-spec has been used to describe the autistic community since at least the 60s, shut up
?????!! your therapist is lying to you!??? autism as a spectrum has only been recognized clinically for four years???????!!!! it was only separated from schizophrenia in 1980????!!!!!
Hm. myes. my therapist, Dr. Realio Notamadeupnamelli.
probably gonna get slammed with anon hate for this but like…
much of the ableism towards Autistic people doesn’t happen “because we’re Autistic,” it happens because we’re weird.
now consider that… and now consider what some of the most common insults are here on tumblr.
weird, gross, embarrassing, cringeworthy… all insults based on that same idea of “you are different and we don’t like you.”
and now consider the constant mocking of “just trying to be special” and “Not Like Other Girls™” that is constantly seen on tumblr.
from early childhood, we are taught and conditioned to know that any deviation from the norm will be punished. for Autistic people, who make up a big portion of what is usually thought of as tumblr’s userbase, this conditioning is often increased tenfold by coercive “therapies” such as ABA and Social Thinking.
the fact that so much of tumblr’s culture is based on strict deviation from the norm– often citing “weird, embarrassing, cringeworthy, just trying to be special” as offenses– is regressive. and as an Autistic person, I would go so far as to say that it is at least somewhat rooted in ableism.
if you’re Autistic and you do this, especially if you’re a survivor of coercive behavioral and social treatments designed to make you “normal,” please think about why you take part in this treatment of others. I know you’ve been hurt, and overcoming internalized ableism is hard. I’m here to help.
if you’re allistic and you do this, please stop. just stop. we’ve already been through enough.
also yes, allistics can reblog this. please do, in fact.
[screenshots of twitter posts by the Inktober account and several responses. Alt text should have described for screen readers.]
Inktober was started by Jake Parker (who also runs the twitter), Mr. Parker is an increasingly well known artist and illustrator.
I’ve been following Jake Parker for a long time, and I like his work, and he’s very impressive and clearly knowledgeable, and sometimes he shares that good knowledge. But I felt like I had to say something, just like these other fine disabled folk did, about how disabled people or people using digital tools as a physical assistive device could feel excluded.
My response on twitter (unthreaded from the Inktober post) was as follows:
I know people mean well when they encourage certain methods for learning, but there’s no reason to use language that excludes disabled people. I teach digital drawing. I literally have students who cannot draw without tablets. I don’t feel like they’re “missing out”. Do I find certain methods improve certain skills? Yes. Do I find ways to accommodate those to my disabled students? Also yes.
All I’m saying is, if you wanna do Inktober digitally to improve your digital inking skills, you should. If you need digital tools to ink, please use them! Wanna simulate analog inking? Scan paper, use some good Photoshop/Clip Studio presets for inkers, white out (not erase!)
And a LOT of the commentary around this issue (not from JP himself, however) has been that disabled people are overreacting, or implying that they just don’t want to try doing traditional ink. Cue my blood boiling.
It’s the implication by the Inktober post that people who NEED digital inking tools or other assistive devices to engage in Inktober are “missing out on the FULL experience” that I take issue with. Why say that? Why explicitly say that if you don’t use traditional analog ink, you’re choosing a less valuable experience?
As an extended sidenote: Using rapid Control-Z isn’t a “bad drawing habit” it’s more a necessity for inking smoothly with a non-screen graphics tablet rather than a very expensive screen tablet. JP uses a screen tablet, for point of reference. It’s not as though artists are incapable of doing almost exactly the same traditional drawing exercises in which we: don’t erase, use one layer, use opaque media, etc. It is only self control, practice, and pushing our comfort levels.
Also, re: exclusion of disabled people: At risk of making imperfect parallel comparisons, it’s not like we would say to someone- “No one is going to stop you from using store-bought tomatoes instead of homegrown tomatoes to make salsa, just know that you’re missing out on the FULL experience of homemade salsa.” or “No one is going to stop you from playing the saxophone instead of a trumpet in a jazz quartet, just know you’re missing out the FULL experience of a jazz quartet.” Maybe that one’s a little “inside baseball” but I hope you see my point.
As someone who teaches a digital drawing class almost identically to the way I would teach a traditional drawing class, I don’t understand where these weird hangups come from about digital media being a “safety net” or “easier”. It’s absolutely more mutable, more changeable, more easily altered, and overall more cheap to pick up, but it’s just another medium.
Any practice in any media where you set limitations and rules and follow those rules is valuable. In the case of Inktober, the limitations are clear: Practice technique, get more comfortable in the medium, and let mistakes happen; adapt to those mistakes rather than giving yourself the luxury of undoing them.
Inking traditionally for Inktober is a good challenge and it asks artists (who perhaps lean on the hyperflexibility of digital inking sometimes?) to work a different way than they might be used to, but to say that you’re “missing out” by inking digitally is false and at least a little ableist, however micro it may seem.
So smoke ‘em if you got em, disabled artists. Use the tools and assistive devices that enable your participation in the challenge of Inktober, whatever and however you need to. Share your work!
“Autistic and a-spec coding often go hand in hand because NTs use both of these identities to Other a character and make them seem ‘not quite human’” is a good breakdown of the problem, not “making autistic aspec characters is automatically ableist/aphobic” and CERTIANLY not “lack of sexual attraction dehumanizes characters” and otherwise throwing irl autistic aspecs under the bus
This.
A-spec and autism are both often used to dehumanize. Autistic characters are portrayed as lacking sexual (and usually romantic) urges, attractions, feelings because they “can’t comprehend those emotions.” A-spec characters are often stripped of any emotional “intelligence” and uncaring/ignorant of societal boundaries.
Specifically because autistic coding is usually lacking emotional intelligence and completely ignorant of how to act in public/manners in general and specifically because a-spec coding is usually lacking any sexual/romantic urges and feelings (which is different than lacking sexual/romantic attraction) and often as if the character feels “above” such base urges…
Because the stereotypes that don’t automatically go with being either autistic or a-spec essentially uses the same ridiculous coding as each other, it’s virtually impossible to tell if many writers meant to code autism, a-spectrum, or both. Perhaps no coding was intended at all.
These issues aren’t the fault of a-specs or autistics or a-spec autistics. And they aren’t the fault of a-spec autistic headcanons. These issues are society’s, these issues are with allosexuals and allistics that don’t even try to understand what either of these identities mean or how they intersect.
I’ll continue to headcanon autistic a-specs, because I’m an autistic a-spec, because I know this identity isn’t ableist or aphobic.
whitemanning critical 