me in a professional setting: haha yes it is I a fellow mentally healthy. so chums how do you enjoy always feeling the correct emotions at the appropriate times? personally I like how said emotions are always a reasonable intensity!
when will people realize that getting professional help for mental illnesses is no where near as easy and simple as they make it out to be
Also!! People need to stop advertising it as if as soon as you seek professional help everything gets better. It can take years for you to find the right medication or even longer for the right therapist
I wish i could use the word “triggered” when describing my experiences regarding my trauma and abuse ive had to endure but lol no the fucking neurotypicals took it away from us and reduced the word to a fucking joke like fuck you just fuck you
hey just a reminder that the handers rivalmance is actually just manipulating and abusing a trauma survivor who is dependent on you, and getting away with it because the devs admitted they think it’s a “good” romance path to take with anders, which is absolutely disgusting and i’m not going to ever let it slide that the bioware writers thought this was appropriate or okay to do to a canon mentally ill character
it also feeds into the very-real problem of how mentally ill folks and abuse survivors are more likely to wind up in abusive relationships, and the fact that they present it without any hint at how grossly problematic it is horrible. and beyond that it perpetuates to survivors that those are the only kinds of relationships that they’ll wind up in which is also super gross like seriously wtf devs
“a-spec” is and has always meant “autism spectrum,” not ace spectrum. “autism spectrum disorder” is the OFFICIAL DIAGNOSIS. it’s gotten to the point where ace discoursers will say, exclusively, “a-spec” instead of “ace people” and autistic people browsing autism tags and such will just get completely trapped in your discourse posts like butterflies in nets. they don’t understand why people are suddenly saying autistic people aren’t real or valid or oppressed. like. that’s not fair lmao.
a-spec means autistic. so stop fucking using it to mean ace.
Multiple autistic people have confirmed that ‘aspec’ has never referred to autism. Insisting otherwise is erasing thousands of voices.
– Fae
As this autistic kid, the only term that would be reserved specifically for autistic folks would be “on the spectrum.” Everything else is unrelated. The color spectrum isn’t ableist. A-spec isn’t either. We’ve discussed this so many times folks. Come on. – Ino
There’s been some negativity in the #actuallyautistic tag recently so I wanted to spread some positivity. Keep in mind that it can be really hard to get an autism diagnosis in adulthood. Plus it could be expensive trying to get a diagnosis. There are a lot of reasons that someone doesn’t have an official diagnosis so don’t judge. Self diagnosed autistics are just as valid!
mostly because of how mandatory attendence is usually set and done is made to help healthy people who take one or two sick days, not sick people who take multiple days to handle or cope with their sickness.
the “you can only be absent three times this semester or ill start dropping your grade” or “this quarter, you cant be absent more than 4-7 times or else you might fail” is very limiting to disabled students who need multiple days just to recover from going to school for one day, or are very sick and need to miss more than three days to even begin to get their illness under control.
another big thing ive heard from highschools, colleges and so on is that “if i let you skip, i need to let everyone skip”, this is stupid, because not everyone is disabled, abled people dont need to take multiple medical days, abled people dont have an illness that is making attendence harder for them, teachers, principals, etc who say this dont understand that disabled people exist and one of their limitations can be the ability to be in class for long periods of time/at all. you dont have to do it for everyone, because not everyone is disabled. and it infuriates me because why do they care about fairness when theyre openly saying that they wont make an accomodation to help a disabled student have an equal opportunity that abled people get with no problem and no fight.
and thats where the biggest issue in mandatory attendence lies, with the simple fact that its obvious teachers didnt think to add disabled people and what they might go through when thinking of rules, whether its because they didnt care enough about disabled students, or they just simply forgot, i dont know, but ableism is ableism.
and a disabled student having to hope a teacher understands their situation, because it isnt mandatory that you not punish the disabled person for being sick, is ableist as well, because getting a teacher who doesnt understand that someone cant help being sick or absent, can set a disabled person up to fail where it wouldnt set an abled person up to fail.
is this done on purpose? is it by accident? i dont know, i dont care, because ableism is ableism.
and id hate for any disabled person going into school feeling like being sick is their fault and choosing being present over being okay.
If I may add to this:
Mandatory attendance also ensures that sick, able-bodied students bring their illness to class where they then expose their classmates to it. This can easily become a big problem for disabled students. An illness that isn’t severe enough for an able-bodied student to stay home can quickly become that severe in a disabled student and take them longer to recover from, leading to some of the issues discussed above.
whitemanning critical 