so I found an old post on here where someone coined “stiff” as a slur to use against asexuals. it fits perfectly imo, they’re lifeless, inflexible, and unpleasant to be around. tbh maybe the asexies need a little taste of oppression so they can understand what having slurs screamed at you on the streets is really like.
did op seriously just bring up 2016 discourse so they could satisfy their oppressor roleplay fantasies and compare asexuals to dead bodies
remember that its about excluding the cishets and exclusionists all respect aspec people uwu
Love the assumption here too that asexuals are so privileged for being asexual that they can’t face oppression from any axis ever.
Like, saying that ace’s of colour ‘don’t understand oppression’ is racist AS HELL.
Saying asexuals who are otherwise bi, pan, gay, lesbian, or trans ‘don’t understand oppression’ is homophobic, transphobic, panphobic, biphobic, and nbphobic.
Saying aces of minority religions ‘don’t understand oppression’ is islamophobic and antisemitic.
Saying disabled aces ‘don’t understand oppression’ is ableist.
Most of us actually know DAMN WELL what oppression looks like. We know because we do, in fact, experience oppression from other axis as well. That’s how we know we’re experiencing oppression for being aspec as well.
So if you’re really gonna sit there and tell a jewish, disabled, nb lesbian ace that they ‘don’t understand oppression’ and ‘need a taste of it to understand it’ I think you need to not just take several fucking seats, but also shut the ever-loving fuck up and realize that you probably actually don’t know as much as you think you fucking do, and that you hate a minority group SO MUCH that you are willing to engage in EVERY other form of bigotry just to make sure asexuals suffer a little more.
You do not, and have never cared about helping or protecting anyone. Your only goal is, and has always been, to hurt a minority group. Think about that for a hot minute for once in your miserable and pathetic life maybe.
inclusionists: I was raped because I was ace!! this is conversion therapy!! CORRECTIVE RAPE ISN’T JUST A LESBIAN THING!!!
me, an actual survivor: I’m sorry you were sexually assaulted, but that doesn’t mean aces are oppressed. you were probably assaulted for some other reason, like they thought you were gay/realized you belong to another minority and wanted to hurt you for it. please don’t trivialize my very real experiences for discourse points, it’s petty and all it does is hurt those of us who do need resources.
I’m sorry, op, but what the fuck? An “actual survivor”? What, like inclusionists are lying about our experiences with rape, sexual abuse, etc? Like being a survivor is some fucking competition that you can “cheat” at? Like people haven’t shared their experiences of being raped due to being asexual? You do fucking realise that many inclusionists are also “actual survivors”, right?
“You were probably raped for some other reason”
Great rape apologism and gaslighting there. Tell the rape victim that they weren’t raped for the reason they say they were raped. How thoughtful of you. Were you there, op? Do you know the details of how, why, when, and where another person was raped? No? Then, once again, shut up.
“Please don’t trivialise my very real experiences”
How about you follow your own advice and don’t trivialise other people’s experiences then? Just a thought.
“It’s petty and all it does is hurt those of us who do need resources”
So an inclusionist (or anyone, really) saying that they were raped due to being asexual is “petty” now? Does this mean that anyone who talks bout their rape or sexual abuse, etc, is also “petty”? A+ dismissal of survivors there. Oh, but wait, inclusionists aren’t “actual survivors” to you. Oops, I forgot.
And what’s with the emphasis on “do”? Are you implying that asexual people who are raped for being asexual don’t need resources, don’t need help, don’t need anything that one would normally need to access after going through the traumatic experience of being raped for your sexuality?
And how the hell does it hurt you for another rape survivor to access resources that will help them get through what is possibly the worst experience in their life? How, exactly, are you hurt by other survivors seeking help? Or do you want them to just sit there and do nothing about getting help and assistance to cope with and process such a traumatic experience?
I can’t explain to you how utterly sick reading this had made me feel.
-Sincerely, an “actual survivor” who’s an inclusionist.
Making fun of i-am-fish posts for being lighthearted and harmless is embaressing and dookie-brained culture. Youre not funny for mocking people making innocent content.
the fish blog knowingly has pedo apologists and shit ton of racists in their server because their mods cant mod for shit i think its fair to say we’re allowed to take shots at the unfunny cishet bootlicker blog thats stuck in 2010 thanks
lets not forget the fact that she seems to be white and is certainly non-black and is constantly butchering aave and mae for goof points– literally making fun of the way poc talk isn’t innocent content. it would be one thing if she was just saying stuff like “uwu” or “pupper”, but shes not. she’s a racist, unfunny pedo apologist who would rather throw lgbt people under the bus than risk making her straight following uncomfortable
didn’t have to scroll that far honestly
im confused now h
lol it’s called a smear campaign
this is what happened to thomas sanders too just bc they found out he supported aces
also, about the one thing they actually did fuck up and not a server raid being taken out of context?
they literally acknowledged they fucked that up and they are literally trying to be a good person and not blindly defend themself
so let me get this straight: people started bashing this person because they support aces? Wow, it’s almost like they pull this with literally anyone that’s mildly notorious and has a tumblr. Grow up, aces are lgbt so suck it up.
Sexual harassment and violence, including so-called “corrective” rape, is disturbingly common in the ace community, says Decker, who has received death threats and has been told by several online commenters that she just needs a “good raping.”
hmm
“There is a real fear even among the asexual community that people who identify as anything other than heterosexual will be harassed and assaulted,” wrote “Angela,” a self-identified aromantic ace. “They have a reason to be upset and a reason to be afraid, it has happened to many people before.”
In response to the post, an anonymous user wrote, “[A]sexuality is not a thing. You are just ugly and no one wanted to date you, so you made up a thing to cuddle your lonely self as you cry into your pillow. Also, I hope you get raped. It has a dual benefit, you’ll get laid finally AND put you into your place as well.”
hmm
In a 2012 Fox News segment about sexologist Anthony Bogaert‘s book Understanding Asexuality, host Greg Gutfeld and a panel of guests mocked the asexual identity, treating it as something invalid or exaggerated.
“I was getting a lot of push-back from the LGBT community,” she said, her voice rising. “I was told that asexuals can’t exist, that asexuals should stop trying to pretend that we’re special. Some people in the LGBT community even told me that asexuals are trying to ‘co-opt the movement.’”
there might be something to this…
Ace explains that many people treat asexuality, in general, the same way they do bisexuality, like it’s just a phase, or a joke, or some sort of character flaw.
oh wait maybe… oh no.
I’ve had someone call me a monster for being asexual and that I must be damaged to not want sex. Men have hit on me or tried to flirt with me, and when, through some way or another, they find out I am asexual, their immediate reaction is to tell me “if you had sex with me I’d change your mind” or, even worse phrasing “I can change that for you” as if I need them to. I’ve never had a physical advance made, but I don’t need one. I’ll keep my distance from people who think that’s all it’ll take to make me love sex is them. No thanks.
well maybe it’s not us who…
No I have never been threatened …..just pitied *shrugs *. Though I have heard of some people within the LGBTQ who have said that aces need rape to get their acts together.
huh
He made me his personal slave. I’ve never heard my name called so many times in my life. And even on a slow night, he would let the drivers stand around and do nothing, but demand that I be constantly on my feet. That place has never been as clean. 😉 And when we were really busy, I’d be answering phones, waiting/bussing tables and dealing with customers for pick up, yet Jerk would still insist that I do what he wanted right when he wanted. Things like ‘get me a water’, ‘get me a rag from the closet’, and ‘don’t sit down’. When the customers were gone, he’d talk about how much he ‘wanted’ me.
Well, I got fired because I wouldn’t give him what he wanted.
Asexual stories need to be told, so when BBC3 got in touch and told me that they wanted to cover the UK Asexuality Conference 2018 as part of a documentary on asexuality, I was excited to say the least. I would be speaking on two panels at the conference, providing some representation for Black aromantic asexual women. After coming out publicly as asexual last year, I have tried to use the platform I gained through fashion modelling to raise awareness for asexuality, so this opportunity was a perfect fit.
BBC3 were there from start to finish, filming the diverse display of asexual people I’ve ever seen. There were people from all walks of life – there were married asexuals, asexuals with children, transgender asexuals, Muslim asexuals, asexual people with disabilities, polyamorous asexuals, homoromantic asexuals, aromantic asexuals, teenage asexuals, and older asexuals. You name it, they were welcome and included.
We were filmed as we told our stories, such a powerful array of stories – some rocky, some smooth, but all equally empowering. BBC3 took a group of us aside for an in-depth group interview. The group was predominantly young and white, but it represented different types of asexuality and asexual experiences. But I soon realised that BBC weren’t interested in diverse experiences… They wanted the ‘lonely asexual’ trope.
When we sounded too positive, they were quick to put us in our place. They turned away from those of us who were happily aromantic, or happily in relationships, and drilled the singles for details about how it felt to be an unloved asexual who couldn’t find a partner. It seemed to displease them that some of us had even – god forbid – had sex and not hated every second of it. Quickly, they turned away from a guy who fit that category, rotated the camera to me, and asked, “If you had to have sex, how would that feel?”
“I wouldn’t have sex,” I answered.
“But if you had to, how would it feel?”
How would it feel if I was forced to have sex? Would a hypothetical rape make an aromantic asexual more interesting?
From then on, I sensed that BBC3 had an angle that they were sticking to, but I couldn’t have anticipated the patronising, whitewashed, exclusionary mess that they aired. They intelligently called the documentary, ‘I Don’t Want Sex,’ but what we actually got was, ‘The Undateables: Asexual Edition,’ and I was horrified.
I cringed as the cameras zoomed in on the presence of stuffed toys and action figures in one of the participant’s bedrooms, as if attempting to make her seem child-like. However, that was nothing in comparison to how I felt as an asexual guy was guided into a sex shop to test his levels of discomfort (which was obvious), or as they quizzed a girl on masturbation and vibrators in a room conveniently decorated with sexual images. I rolled my eyes as one of the participants eased an asexual guy through the art of texting a potential romantic interest, like teaching a child to read, and how an asexual girl not speaking to guys in a bar was treated as a cause for concern.
Asexuality is not synonymous with innocence and a lack of social skills, but it seemed like BBC3 didn’t want the public to know that. They also missed the detail that asking asexual people about what they do with their genitals is as inappropriate and invasive as asking as transgender woman whether she still has a penis. It’s an obvious, needless attempt to try and gauge how seriously someone should take another’s asexuality.
I was running out of hope by the time the conference was included in the last five minutes of the show, but I was curious to see what BBC3 had deemed important enough to show. Out of the hours and hours of footage they had of me, they decided to show me wiping my eyes, as if crying at the brief and uninspiring conversation about asexual clothing choices that they decided to air. Only, they knew that I had eyeliner in my eye. We had laughed about it on the day, they had supposedly paused the filming while I had been given a tissue to solve the problem. If I needed any more reason to suspect that the portrayal of asexual happiness was too much to ask for, that was it.
The closing statements of the documentary added insult to injury. “Cute asexuals do exist.” That’s the message that was taken from the conference? When we sat together for over an hour and opened up to BBC3’s cameras like it was some kind of group therapy meeting, I didn’t realise that we were being observed to see which was us were ‘cute’ enough to date. Well, the boys were, at least. It was time to add the old ‘asexual people aren’t good looking’ stereotype to the growing list featured in this documentary.
I am not just upset because BBC3 took an empowering, celebratory experience like the UK Asexuality Conference and tried to turn it into dating show. What bothers me the most about this documentary is the narrow, stereotypical portrayal of asexual people and asexuality – and just in time for Asexual Awareness Week. I know that BBC3 had the opportunity to do better, but they decided not to, even though this documentary could be the first and only time that people see real asexual people on a mainstream platform.
Asexual people aren’t just shy, white, young people who are sad because they can’t get dates. Despite BBC3’s desperate attempts to exclude us, aromantic asexual people exist, asexual people in happy relationships exist, asexual families exist, asexual minorities exist. Asexuality isn’t a new thing that only young people are doing. And asexual people are perfectly capable of living fulfilling, happy, complete lives, whether they date and have sex or not.
This is sick
This shit here is why ace people have a hard time even realizing they’re ace. When your story isn’t told, how are you supposed to find yourself?
This is horrifying. The BBC should be getting into serious trouble for this kind of misrepresentation and abuse. Because that’s what some of this stuff was. Abuse.
However, that was nothing in comparison to how I felt as an asexual guy was guided into a sex shop to test his levels of discomfort (which was obvious), or as they quizzed a girl on masturbation and vibrators in a room conveniently decorated with sexual images.
This is straight-up disrespectful and abusive. Pretty sure it counts as sexual harassment.
whitemanning critical 