Been noticing a lot of these “Asexuals” are also nazis
you need to apologize to every single asexual jew right now you little freak
What the fuck op?
kick a table
fun of you op to say this when until now the only ones making nazi apologism like “aroace trump moodboard” “kylo ren acehet moodboard” “we should gas all aceys so they have a real reason to be oppressed” are umm exclusionists
Exclusionists have said the following about a-spec people:
I guess accusing us of all being pedophile apologists wasn’t enough, now it’s, “They’re actually nazis.”
don’t know about u guys but i think it’s a lot more common for someone to misidentify as ace due to internalised homophobia or biphobia than to “misidentify” as an lgbt identity. also if people do ID as one lgbt identity and decide it’s not right for them; they’re way more likely to move to another lgbt identity rather than a non lgbt one but yeah keep saying how for a lot of people being bi is a “phase”
im a mod on fuckyeahasexual, i get 10+ anon messeges every day, mostly from people outside the discourse. i actually know whats going on with ace people and how our experiences evolve, as opposed to your echo chamber you exclusionist bloggers have locked yourselves into
and by far, our most common ask is ‘am i really asexual’, and there’s two common precludes; ‘i’ve been identifying as bi/pan for years’, or that ‘i thought i was straight but just bad with men/women/etc’.
i accidentally identified as bi when i was young. several asks we get share this experience. stories submitted to us – or other ace blogs such as theasexualityblog – also commonly begin with ‘i used to think i was bi/pan because i felt the same level of attraction towards everybody’.
a lot of us are. very skeptical about exclusionists claiming that its oh so Common for, as you put it, poor vulnerable gggl people to see the definition of asexuality and try the moniker to see if it fits. and thats very horrible.
because when us aces were young, there was no asexual community, asexuality was not listed in lgbt+ sites and resources, nothing out there was encouraging us to embrace asexuality or aromanticism. we misidentified as bi because although we might know that asexuality exists, of course it couldn’t apply to us lmao thats for fictional serial killers and infamous insane people of history
so no, your self-sustaining exclusionary view of ace people is very off the mark. reality check – deal w/ it
An incomplete list of things a-spec people are not allowed to do according to the discourse:
– Have a word to describe people who are not a-spec.
– Have a term that encompasses both ace and aro identities at once.
– Use the color purple in our flags.
– Headcanon characters as a-spec if anyone ever has headcanoned them as literally anything else.
– Express pride about being ace or aro during Pride month.
– Have sex if we don’t experience sexual or romantic attraction.
– Not have sex if our partner is allosexual.
– Talk about experiences where someone has specifically tried to ‘correct’ our orientation with rape.
– Talk about experiences where therapists have pressured or coerced us to start/stop certain medications to ‘fix’ our orientation.
– Be openly confused and/or curious about how sexual attraction works.
– Make jokes about completely forgetting that allo people typically experience sexual attraction.
– Identify as a-spec if under 18.
– Exist, apparently.
– If you’re over 18 and identify as aspec, you’re desexualizing yourself and giving into medicalized homophobia
– If you break up with an allosexual partner because they refused to respect your boundaries, it’s your fault for getting into the relationship in the first place. If they break up with you, you’re lucky they lasted that long.
– Sex ed? Asexuality resources as a free resource? Who is she
– Artemis. The moon. ‘Corrective rape’. The concept of heteronormality. Wearing rings. Conversion therapy. It’s not just about purple.
– Don’t be cute and happy with your asexuality, that’s cringy. Don’t be radical and vocal about it either, that’s cringy. Just don’t be asexual at all.
Holy fucking shit I was at pride last weekend and there were thrirty people walking around with ace flags and its like. You can’t sit with us go back the 21 pilots concert and watching voltron
this is hilarious. die mad about it
Sorry op but that’s what pride is. You can just stay home if you don’t like it.
discourse posts making fun of ace kids for saying some cringey stuff are honestly so gross. like, when i first realized i was asexual, i was all about those silly memes about how i would rather eat cake than have sex. up until that point, society had made it very clear that sex was the best thing that could ever happen and that i should be always concerning myself with how to have it. which, of course, wasn’t something that i wanted.
and then for the first time, people were telling me that, no, i didn’t have to make sex my top priority. i could make mac n cheese and shitty horror movies and cake my top priority. and that was a Big Deal to lil asexual me. yeah, some of the stuff i said was pretty iffy and maybe even a little problematic, but damn! i was just a teenager expressing their newfound identity and trying to be proud of something that all of mainstream media was telling me i should never, ever be proud of.
so, you know, maybe cut those kids who are always going on about how cool it is to be ace little bit of slack?
it rly is weird how theres this culture in progressive spaces where like you can be as mean, as CRUEL even, as you want as long as youre not being explicitly bigoted towards any marginalized group of people and still be seen as a really good person with good morals who nobody is allowed to have beef with bc theyve never done anything racist or homophobic
this culture enables actual abuse. ive seen progressives engage in gaslighting, guilt-tripping, stalking, harassment, witch hunts, death threats, rape threats, and suicide baiting. these abusers are protected by the idea that marginalized people cannot be abusive and that any criticism of the behavior is “problematic” or tone-policing. the behavior likely emerged as a reaction to tone-policing, respectability politics and moderate liberalism, swinging the pendulum to the opposite extreme of aggressive callout culture and groupthink. i also think many progressives are marginalized + disempowered in mainstream society and cope by replicating the same patterns of abuse in a microcosm where they have clout
Addendum: you can also be horribly bigoted toward other marginalized people, so long as you use the ‘correct’ language and attack a marginalized group that is already a popular target of lateral / intra-community aggression (or, as I like to call it ‘I’m too chickenshit to do anything that requires effort or sacrifice, so my activism is screaming at other marginalized people and blaming them for all my issues’).
This is very visible on Tumblr, with a rotating cadre of people (bisexuals, pansexuals, ace/aro people, nonbinary people, intersex people, trans people who don’t subscribe to transmedicalist stances) being the revolving Targets du Jour for some truly vicious hate and smear campaigns, by individuals *who should know better* (but don’t, because they enjoy the thrill of soft, easily reachable targets upon which to vent the rage caused by non-marginalized society). Fundamentally, this is what happens when one’s activism revolves around seeking VENGEANCE (and a completely misplaced one at that!) rather than justice.
bi/ace solidarity posts are just another tactic to divide the community against those “evil LGs” and it’s just textbook homophobia, it paints lesbian and gay people as an oppressive class which requires an alliance against when it literally does not
bi/ace people feeling unsafe in their own community? obviously Their Own Fault
hey whos ready for net neutrality to get revoked cause i sure as hell am
hey jw what qualifies posts like this as “discourse” rather than uhh acting like an anti sjw
aces: here’s a couple things we like
this person: but you aren’t allowed to have anything sweaty 😉 that’s cringeworthy, and you’re cringeworthy, which makes all of you cishets cringeworthy 😉 let me oppress you for a while 😉
tis a Joke
ok can you explain whats funny about it i dont get it
it’s just that it’s kind of silly and arbitrary things that are being claimed as a ‘culture’ surrounding an identity that barely has a coherent definition, let alone something to form a community and culture around (when was the last time someone formed a community based on the lack of something?)
also cringe humour etc. that I know ppl with crucify me for, but like, guilty pleasure humour is a thing
a gay person: not being able to drive is gay culture
everyone: haha yeah true
an asexual person: axolotls are ace culture
everyone: omg look at this snowflake lmao cringe im dyin scoob take the shot jessica
whitemanning critical 