Tag: acephobia

marina-pepsi:

asexual-sylveon:

anna-hates-meanies:

asexual-sylveon:

inplaceofarms:

autistictaramaclay:

ducknewton:

could you Imagine someone telling you they have a “squish” on you and that they want you to be their QPP and being expected to be nice about the whole thing as if you dont wanna just shove their head in a toilet

that sounds rly cute tho

that sounds nice!!! i’d think it would be super sweet for someone to want to be my QPP (even if i didn’t feel the same way) or to have a squish on me

sounds amazing!! not everyone is as unnecessarily bitter as you lmao

OP’s Squish rejected them

it’s okay op you’ll find a squish soon

Op you’ll find your squish soon enough I believe in you

Best Of Tumblr Ace Discourse

  • Eventually realizing that aspec exclusion couldn’t exist without dipping back into biphobia and exosexism. So nowadays, doing exactly that.
  • It’s to the point that nowadays, we’re very wary of exclusionists because they’ll eventually prove themselves extremely bigoted. Having fun on Tumblr Dot Com
  • Mistakenly thinking that early inclusionist Discourse was claiming sex education as inherently damaging (with justified, if misplaced rage), then eventually arguing that sex education that includes asexuality was inherently damaging for the same exact reasons
  • To the point where ppl are now arguing that teaching about menstrual cycles to minors is grooming them for pedophiles, and that no 14-year-old needs to know about condoms
  • The claim that ‘aspec’ refers to the autistic spectrum, with absolutely no documents or community sources to back this up. Bonus points for dutifully ignoring the massive crowds of autistic people arguing against this obtuse lie
  • The weird circular logic that claims asexuality as objectifying and hypersexualizing other sexual identities, while also claiming it to be sex shaming
  • Comparing aspec people to white supremacists, nazis, misogynist criminals, and etc as ‘jokes’, and of course we’re overreacting when we point out how fucked up that is
  • Being of color and involved in Ace Discourse deserves its own post tbh
  • Suddenly, wanting queer cafes (or other non-alcoholic, sensory sensitive, minor friendly and workday spaces) is a Problem now because the aspec community has voiced their interest in it. Just make your own safe spaces? No, not like that
  • Blaming the aspec/mogai community for your decision in exploring identities that didn’t stick
  • Eventually claiming that sex without sexual attraction is *unhealthy* and *abusive* and *problematique*, and other faux concern paid untowards aspec people’s own sexual autonomy. Apparently, you can’t consent or want physical intimacy without experiencing a very specific type of attraction.
  • Like if you wanna claim everyone experiences flows and grey areas of sexual attraction, then what’s the big difference between us consenting to sex and you people doing the same thing, just let us be sexual goddamn
  • People claiming that they misidentified in ace in middle school while early 2000′s pride/lgbt+ education didn’t even include asexuality in their resources, and top asexuality google searches were Cracked articles talking about history’s most infamous serial killers
  • Was asexuality invented 7 years ago or have we been misleading poor children to their mogai doom since 2002 you cant pick both

rusty-potato:

fumbledeegrumble:

ufogays:

you know what’s wild? i know SO MANY asexuals outside of tumblr, and absolutely none of them are as desperate to be oppressed as all the people on here. in fact they barely even talk about their asexuality because ?? what’s there to talk about? they don’t experience sexual attraction and that’s literally all there is to it. they’re all amazing people, but i come on tumblr and my GOD you’re all assholes. why is there such a huge difference? why are you so obsessed with being ace? like maybe if you’re THIS obsessed with it and the fact you don’t want sex is on your mind ALL THE TIME then you might not be ace at all. thinking about sex so much sounds pretty allo to me.

Hey, crazy thought here, maybe they don’t talk about being ace around you because they know you’re an exclusionist and they know that if they do, you’ll probably start calling them incels or turbo virgins or something. Maybe they get a vibe off of you they don’t like.

And, “GOD, you’re all assholes?” Really??? Yall can’t go a week without, i repeat, calling them incels? Have you SEEN most of the shit exclusionists post about them on a regular basis? Ace people are the assholes??? I mean even here, you can’t even wrap this post up without shitting on aces for talking about their identity and using that to invalidate them. Read some of the shit you post.

i’ll be brutally honest, and I’m actually gonna say, I’m so fucking sorry for all your ace friends.

I’m guessing they aren’t talking much about being ace, because of you.

Interesting is also how you got the definition of asexuality right in the beginning of your post, but at the end said “don’t want sex”. I wouldn’t talk about being ace around you either of I were your “ friend”.

I, for my part, am talking so much about my sexuakity/the discourse surrounding it, because I’m fucking sick of it. Asexuality is not ‘not wanting to fuck’. It’s not experiencing sexual attraction. You (as in generally exclusionist) keep calling us ‘incels’ say we are all inherently homophobic, and can’t stop making moodbords with white supermacists. So fuck you, yes I’m going to be fucking whiny about this. And I will be in real life should I ever have to. I won’t quietly sit down while you shit on a good part of my identity.

Also, if you’re fucking want to go that rout, I ain’t talking a lot about me being Bi in real life, because I don’t have much to talk about it. A little more so about being trans, but not a lot. Only really if the topic comes up. Might be different if I had a friend who’s LGBTQ+, idk.

Bit if ya want us to quit whining around, than ya all gotta quit being fucking pieces of shit.

Have a day.

soacethetic:

It’s not just the cishets

I don’t care what your opinion on discourse is, but if you act like the ‘discourse’ is just about the cishets at this point, you’re straight up lying

  • If it was just about the cishets, it wouldn’t be called ‘ace discourse’
  • If it was just the cishets, a-spec terminology wouldn’t be constantly mocked
  • If it was just the cishets, the validity of ace and aro identities wouldn’t be a topic of debate
  • If it was just the cishets, a-spec experiences wouldn’t be dismissed or talked over
  • If it was just the cishets, ‘asexual’ and ‘aromantic’ wouldn’t be called modifiers or treated as TMI
  • If it was just the cishets, mood boards of white supremacists and Nazis wouldn’t be made with the ace flag
  • If it was just the cishets, ‘aphobe’ wouldn’t be an edgy label to wear
  • If it was just the cishets, LGBT people wouldn’t be called cishet when arguments run low
  • If it was just the cishets, ace discourse would be an intercommunity debate between a-spec people only
  • If it was just the cishets, aces wouldn’t be the butt of jokes
  • If it was just the cishets, aces wouldn’t be compared to oppressors or implied to be inherently privileged

god i hate excls concern trolling over having sex to please your partner. I’m OCD and have intrusive thoughts and that shit absolutely fucks with my head, makes me second-guess myself and puts my head in a false reality. My partner has never been pushy or demanding or manipulative but they’re allo so I still do it sometimes – it doesn’t bother me to do it, even though i’m not super interested. We have a healthy, long-term relationship and i’m not traumatizing myself, christ on a cracker. -c-

fuckyeahasexual gets lots of affirming messages from people in allo/aspec relationships that pretty much derail any bullshit claim that our sexual life is inherently problematique

two years ago i hosted an aspec valentine’s day selfie call, and we got even more stories of ppl talking about how they pursue their relationships with their allo partner

and we get even more stories and asks about how to navigate sex repulsion, i dont even know if anyone in question is actually aspec, sex repulsion is smth we all gotta deal with but ooh it only becomes a problem if the people involved are aspec hmm and hmmmmm

-c- my rule of thumb for ace people navigating that? only do what you’re comfortable with, have healthy communication and boundaries with your partner, and you’ll be fine.

ace explicitry manages to straddle both the ‘stop oversexualizing the legbets’ and ‘stop sex shaming our rightful bodily autonomy and desires’ schools of Discourse and its honesty impressive how hateful people feel justified to be

like you….cant stop me from finding healthy sexual partners that actually understand what we both want and how to achieve it lmao

if only i could hide the fact that we’re both aspec, id like to see ppl scramble to guess which one they should defend from the other ‘using’ them

“asexuals not having/liking sex is a stereotype” y’all are really throwing together nonsense and expecting it to be seen as a valid argument huh

traggotry:

don’t u hate it when gay people are stereotyped as being attracted to their own gender? or when trans people are stereotyped as not being cis? lesbians loving women??? stereotype. end hate

imagine typing this out and then being pissed about the strawman that lgbt+ identities are all about sex