Tag: acephobia

ace people could choose to not flaunt how easy it is to be ace (as proof by the fact that the only people pushing back against ace awareness week are lgbt people) while trans people are suicidal over the impending loss of their rights. it doesn’t matter if it’s preppanned, you could have decency and move the date for just this year

you dont have to tell me how trans people are reacting to this buddy, also unlike many of these assholes i was a direct target of the trump administration from day 1 because of my family’s legality in the USA as brown immigrants fresh from undergrad/doctorate school

and youve got a lot of nerve telling me how ‘easy it is to be ace’ because oh my god its not, and no your dashboard isn’t political proof of anything you dumbass

at this point, us ‘moving’ ace awareness week to another date is a lost oppportunity for you fucks to learn an important lesson in decency and morality and how a community actually works

golbatgender:

uranodioning:

fuckyeahasexual:

thayherself:

angelicantics:

ion even care im so pressed tonight. anyway, why is asexual awareness day or whatever trending when just yesterday trans people’s rights were threatened, and are probably going to be taken away. And don’t give me that bullshit ‘owo they both need to have a light shed on them’ bc trans people are in fucking imminent danger here and we need support more than ever. For once in yall’s lives can you dig up some compassion and understanding? Call me aphobic all you want, but im sick of trans people being fucking ignored and left to fight for ourselves. 

Don’t bother actin a fool, i’ll just block you

Can anyone on Tumblr shut the fuck up about asexuals for five fucking seconds? Can you please do that for me? I know you’re going to fucking assume I’m a cishet or some shit but I’m literally fucking tired of this. Who the fuck cares about a trending hashtag? We, as trans people, are going to lose our fucking rights in the near future and all you can fucking talk about is asexuals? Go to fucking hell and shove this post right up your ass on the way down. You have the fucking gall to gloat like “ooh stay mad” like it’s all some fucking game. I’ve not seen a single post from asexuals or some shit trying to distract from what the Trump administration is trying to push, but you’re so fucking absorbed in bullshit Tumblr politics that you literally cannot resist somehow bringing up asexuals. You’re fucking pathetic. People are going to lose their rights, their mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical health are in direct jeopardy because some of us might lose the right to change our bodies so we won’t want to fucking kill ourselves but oh thank fucking god that some loser online is speaking truth to power against the tumblr acey waceys!! This literally insignificant minority of people on a fucking website who happened to have an awareness day or whatever. You’re a fucking joke. Get your fucking shit together. Fuck this post and fuck everyone who reblogged it.

Full fucking offence OP but theres literally NO CORRELATION between ace people celebrating ace awareness week and trump administration threatening trans people’s rights and the fact that you are hiding behind the “Why dont we care about REAL issues!!!1!” to spread your disgusting views about asexuality is fucking DESPICABLE

TRANS ACE people exist and you arent doing them ANY favors by acting like they dont deserve to celebrate and talk about their aceness lol.In fact many of them are using ace awareness week to feel better about at least one part of their marginalized identity and distract themselves against something they cant control and telling them that they are horrible to do so isnt achieving ANYTHING

Its high fucking time yall stop taking out your anger on ace people and blaming them for every single problem in your life bc they are marginalized and can be easily rattled while the cis oppressors are too powerful to be affected by you.

Trump administration isnt gonna take back their decisions regarding trans people if people stopped celebrating ace awareness week so direct your efforts towards things that WILL MATTER and AFFECT this threat on trans people’s human rights instead of attacking marginalized orientations who just want to spend a WEEK without being felt guilty for existing 

We will fight for trans people’s human rights AND celebrate ace awareness week.Also its SO funny how you are hiding the notes of ANYONE who is calling you out on your bullshit especially TRANS ACE people.Dont make posts speaking about trans people’s issues if you arent gonna listen to many of them 

please have a terrible day week month year OP. you suck. you suck so much. punching on people who are already down. what a turd. what an absolute mess

Ace awareness week was a known date for like a year. It’s not any ace person’s fault the trans story broke at the same time. Also, shockingly, most people are able to care about multiple things at once, and if you’re too flighty to do the same, well, that’s only your fault.

aceaventurine:

lacecourse:

hot take, but if you genuinely believe asexual means “doesn’t fuck” or “doesn’t want to fuck” you shouldn’t be involved in ace discourse.

like? if you don’t even understand the definition of the thing you’re arguing about you have no kind of authority or credibility to talk about it as if you do. knowing what this means is the absolute bare minimum to expect from a discourser; you don’t have to be an expert, obviously, but at least know what you’re talking about.

it’s really hard to have discussion when there are people who are so grossly misinformed but still think they’re right.

To be honest I don’t think they don’t understand, I think they just don’t care. Painting asexuality as “no fucky” is just another way to dismiss this identity and the experiences attached to it.

Same with the whole aroace thing, the huge majority of exclusionists know the discourse is not just about cishet aces and aros, they know they also exclude cis aroaces and aces who don’t use the SAM, but they just don’t care enough to take 2sec to acknowledge this. Because “cishet” is a simpler umbrella term, who cares if it’s a shitty thing to do.

I highly doubt this comes from a misunderstanding of the issue, but rather from a global disinterest in actually discoursing. I hope I’m wrong, but the discourse has been going on for so long that it seems unlikely that such misconceptions persist.

there’s actually a popular discourse post going around that says ‘including identities based off of weird sex practices (like asexuality and kink) means you equate gayness with abnormality’

so they actually do misunderstand asexuality fundamentally. 

herefortheace:

Exclusionists: “the ace label is useless there’s no clear definition it’s so vague it tells you nothing”

Also exclusionists: “the ace label provides such graphic detailed information about someone’s literal sex life, ace people shouldn’t breathe a word of their minority orientation to anyone outside the bedroom ever”

cookie-sheet-toboggan:

@lesbians who tell bi/pan girls that they’re not queer enough because even though they’re attracted to women they don’t know the struggle of being a woman who is not attracted to men, and then turn to ace girls and tell them that their lack of attraction towards men doesn’t make them queer enough because they’re not attracted to women either

“what do bi and ace ppl have in common?”

blasian-bitch
mentioned you on a post

“bi/ace solidarity posts are just another tactic to divide the…”

@millenniumfae What experiences do we share lmao?

im either bi or ace and im leaving u to decide which one;

  • mistaking that you’re one instead of the other for much of your younger years
  • struggling with the realization that you feel the same way about everyone, regardless of gender
  • fearing coming out to your dates, even if they’re lgbt+/queer themselves
  • facing violent (and often sexual) hatred commonly misinterpreted as something else, therefore minimizing it
  • specific objectification and (de)sexualization based off of plural orientation
  • being of color and struggling further with the connotations that arise
  • being trans (and specifically nonbinary) and having to further struggle with how gender relates to sexual attraction
  • being excluded from supposed safe spaces because of your identity
  • having constructed safe spaces invaded by exclusionaries

translesblr:

courteousmingler:

thincourse:

Can asexuals understand that when they are raped, it is because of misogyny???

is this about the asexual survivors who state openly that their attacker said it was to turn them straight?

because. “This will turn you straight” isn’t something a rapist says when it’s just misogyny.

and..sexual assaults  caused only by misogyny don’t have male victims. 

you dumbasses will literally preach 

“SOMETIMES PEOPLE WITH STRAIGHT PRIVILEGE GET ATTACKED FOR NOT HAVING STRAIGHT PRIVILEGE!”

“Sometimes people with straight privilege get attacked by people who want to turn them straight! Corrective assault happens to EVERYONE!” 

before you admit the actual cause of these assaults.

because admitting the factual cause of these assaults would:

1. involve admitting rape survivors sometimes tell the truth 

and 

2. allow society at large to start combating the cause of the assaults.

and you guys Can’t Have That can you.

like. this “IT’S JUST MISOGYNY!” shit has been debunked by actual material studies, showing asexual women are assaulted at higher rates than other women. (x)  (While that article merely mentions that asexual rates rival those of bisexuals, and glosses over the discrepancy between the assaults faced by asexual women compared to the rate of the assaults faced by non-ace women, I encourage you to look into the Human Rights Comission’s 2017 study directly.) 

but accepting reality just isn’t worth watching those rape statistics drop to you proud pro-rape folks, is it? 

HERE IS A FUCKING ARTICLE ABOUT THIS

lesbie-vague:

jewish-dragonair:

korrasera:

alloqueers:

tea-and-biscourse:

transmedtwink:

lovbutch:

thatlittledandere:

Straight people think that either you know you’re gay from childhood or something big happens one day and you Realize (and it is like that to some of course) but lbr for many it goes like

  • I’m straight
  • No I’m bi
  • Wait am I biromantic ace?
  • No I’m definitely bi
  • …I may not be bi
  • Am I straight after all? Am I ace??
  • Maybe I’m demi??? Who knows
  • I might also be aroace…
  • Fuck it I’m pretty sure I’m queer

or whatever

LMAOOOOOO AND Y’ALL THINK THIS IS A GOOD AND REGULAR THING???

the only reason you guys have this kind of experiences is because of mogai ideologies and you being on tumblr too young. this kind of shit NEVER existed beforehand and all it looks like from here is you all getting confused and overcomplicating your sexuality on the faults of mogai hell!

Imagine how many young people would understand what they actually are if all of these mogai genders didn’t exist.

If the ‘pansexual’ label didn’t exist nor did the weird pressure that tucutes give to want you to not be ONLY attracted to one gender, I would have figured out I was gay a lot earlier than I actually figured it out.

So basically OP is a straight person who experiences attraction uniquely and has some trouble with relationships? But guess what, we literally all have some level of difficulty with relationships and unique experiences. You’re not a demiromantic-heterosexual, you’re just straight, chill.

wow exclusionists sure hate questioning people

For the record, all of those nonsense additions above where people are crapping on questioning people are, in fact, completely wrong.

Not only do we all live in societies that aren’t adequately accepting of those of us who are in the LGBTQ+ community, the process of coming out to yourself and realizing that your gender or sexuality aren’t as you were told is complex and challenging to deal with. It can be fraught with pain and discomfort in the best of circumstances and it’s always challenging.

But it’s nothing to be afraid of and it’s certainly nothing you should ever feel ashamed for. A lot of bi people think that they’re gay at first. A lot of gay people think that they’re bi at first. As you grow and learn to know yourself you might change the way you look at who you are and that’s totally fine.

Even if we had a truly positive environment everywhere, we’d still have questioning people. We’ve always had questioning people. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with questioning and certainly nothing wrong with realizing that you have one of these genders or sexualities that these bigots say don’t actually exist.

Contrary to the kind of nightmare framework that people like @lovbutch, @transmedtwink, and @tea-and-biscourse envision, figuring yourself out is a healthy and normal process. Don’t listen to them, they’re just afraid that if someone else identifies differently from them then it somehow devalues their identity or makes them re-evaluate themselves and think about the pain they went through when they first came out to themselves.

Fuck that, fuck them, keep listening to your own heart. There’s nothing wrong with being demiromantic, pansexual, or non-binary, and a bunch of conservatives in the LGBTQ+ community can’t change that.

fun fact: i went through exactly this (well not the exact same order but y’know) way before i was super active on tumblr. i didn’t know what mogai was until pretty recently.

coming here and talking to other people like me was what helped me realize that i wasn’t alone. that it was okay to explore my identity. that i wasn’t a bad person for having thought i was a lesbian or ace or bi or pan or any of the other labels i went through.

the idea that “this kind of shit never existed beforehand” is complete nonsense and the amount of bile in the first three reblogs is sickening. grow up and stop pretending that your experiences define everyone else’s.

I love how bisexuality is now a mogai label and basically straight. Fuck these people. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with questioning and you are no less queer for not knowing your identity right off the bat. I went back and forth between straight and closeted bi for years and hated myself for it, wanna call me a dirty mogai and kick me out too? Even if you don’t consider ace or demi to be lgbtq identities that doesn’t mean you should be disrespectful and exclusive towards people who question if they are those things. Questioning people should be welcomed no matter what, and they will always be welcomed by me.