Tag: asexuality

leproblematique:

theroguefeminist:

delistylehardcore:

it rly is weird how theres this culture in progressive spaces where like you can be as mean, as CRUEL even, as you want as long as youre not being explicitly bigoted towards any marginalized group of people and still be seen as a really good person with good morals who nobody is allowed to have beef with bc theyve never done anything racist or homophobic

this culture enables actual abuse. ive seen progressives engage in gaslighting, guilt-tripping, stalking, harassment, witch hunts, death threats, rape threats, and suicide baiting. these abusers are protected by the idea that marginalized people cannot be abusive and that any criticism of the behavior is  “problematic” or tone-policing. the behavior likely emerged as a reaction to tone-policing, respectability politics and moderate liberalism, swinging the pendulum to the opposite extreme of aggressive callout culture and groupthink. i also think many progressives are marginalized + disempowered in mainstream society and cope by replicating the same patterns of abuse in a microcosm where they have clout

Addendum: you can also be horribly bigoted toward other marginalized people, so long as you use the ‘correct’ language and attack a marginalized group that is already a popular target of lateral / intra-community aggression (or, as I like to call it ‘I’m too chickenshit to do anything that requires effort or sacrifice, so my activism is screaming at other marginalized people and blaming them for all my issues’).

This is very visible on Tumblr, with a rotating cadre of people (bisexuals, pansexuals, ace/aro people, nonbinary people, intersex people, trans people who don’t subscribe to transmedicalist stances) being the revolving Targets du Jour for some truly vicious hate and smear campaigns, by individuals *who should know better* (but don’t, because they enjoy the thrill of soft, easily reachable targets upon which to vent the rage caused by non-marginalized society). Fundamentally, this is what happens when one’s activism revolves around seeking VENGEANCE (and a completely misplaced one at that!) rather than justice.

Them: We’re having relationship problems.

Me: Oh no, you’re struggling with making ends meet? You’re dealing with secret-keeping and invasions of privacy? Is there some unfaithfulness involved??

Them: Our sex life is drying up.

Me, and Ace: ah

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fuckyeahasexual:

“You don’t get ace people killing themselves because of aphobia”, Tea on canvas (2018)

If you ever see this please reply with @@@thetrevorproject . They are for aces to use, they have trained specfically because aces were calling. 

This is also a painful example why excluding people causes harm. Hotlines want people to call it’s often dtiretly tied into their funding so remind people resources are around to be used by anyone in need. 

daniethowell:

saying you’re asexual isn’t cringy

saying you’re aromantic isn’t cringy

saying you’re demi/gray isn’t cringy

saying you’re sex repulsed isn’t cringy

saying you’re sex positive/natural isn’t cringy

A-spec identities aren’t cringy

but having a blog dedicated to bullying people for their sexual/romantic orientation?

now That’s cringy