gay men who wont date trans men because they “are not really men” are gross and lesbian women who wont date trans women because they “are not really women” are gross sorry i dont make the rules lmao
*staring uncomfortably at my cis followers who pretend they didn’t see this*
as a dysphoric, binary trans man, i see people mocking non-binary trans identities as mocking all trans identities
And we all should, tbh. When people mock nb people, they’re essentially mocking the trans identities that they feel are unacceptable for violating gender norms. But all of us violate gender norms. Our existence violates gender norms.
Don’t piss in my low carb gluten free cheerios by acting like “oh no I only find THEM ridiculous because of how THEY violate my rigid definitions of gender” like rigid definitions of gender aren’t the entire problem in the first fuckin place.
Don’t try and pit me against my non-binary trans siblings because according to you they somehow make it harder for me to transition and be taken seriously. You know what makes it harder for me to transition and be taken seriously? Transphobia. Nothing else. Kiss my ass.
Buzz from the Honey Nut Cheerios box is a trans guy
look
He’s got a stinger, and only the worker bees have those. And what are all of the worker bees? Female.
Males do not have stingers. But it’s clear Buzz is portrayed as a boy. My conclusion? A happy trans dude living life and eating cereal.
Thank u for your time
this is an excellent observation but I’d like to add: bees don’t fall into the same gender binary as we have in western culture. There isn’t just male/female.
as you’ve shown here, there’s workers, drones, and a queen. the queen is obviously the female, the drones are males, but … worker bees are a little different. since science is a broad, highly flawed, and extremely cisnormative field, researchers looked at worker bees and basically went “well, there’s boys and there’s girls, and these bees can’t impregnate the queen, so They Must Be Girls!”
In reality, they are technically neither. Since they’re bees, they don’t care what we think and it doesn’t bother them, but in human terms, worker bees are technically nonbinary.
or, rather, non-bee-nary 🙂
so to summarize with what everyone else has added, Barry B Benson, every bee in the Bee Movie, Buzz the Cheerios bee, and just about every bee in pop culture that is a worker bee is nonbinary.
full offense inclusionists don’t respect trans people and frankly they kind of hate us
This is so funny because yall are the ones whonsay that straight trans people somehow oppress cis LGB+ people, have a shit ton of truscum, freak out whenever we say that cis white gays and lesbians have never been excluded from the community, and go around pretending to be trans women of color for discourse points while being cis white girls, but sure, its inclusionists who don’t respect and hate trans people. Totally.
Exclusionists have:
Pretended to be trans women of color… Twice
Called trans poc homophobes for pointing out that cis whites have the most privilege in the community
Dismissed proof that exclusionism is being used to recruit transmisogynists
Defended cis people
defended transmisogynists
Admitted several times that they think nonbinary people are straight, unless they identify as mlm or wlw
dismiss complaints that “sga” doesn’t include nonbinary genders
platformed truscum
Openly mocked demigenders without consequence
Ignored the fact that “MOGAI HELL” was started by truscum
LITERARY SAID THAT TRANSMISOGYNISTS ARE FEMINISTS
Made fake lists of “inclusionist pedophiles” who were mostly trans people, just to discredit inclusionists
Literally said that we couldn’t exclude TERFs from the community, in response to trans women asking you to actually give a fuck about us
They also twisted and mangled the term cishet, which WAS a useful term for trans non-straight people to refer to cis straight people, into a dog whistle
On top of that, when trans people asked them to stop, they openly refused
Oh, and let’s not forget that one cis gay guy who said that ace/aro trans people didn’t belong in the community as much as he did
“I hate MOGAI tumblr.” = “All genders and sexualities are valid, except these ones I have arbitrarily decided I don’t like because I think they’re too weird, because I’m an exclusionary and gatekeeping asshole.”
This isnt a hot take but feminism which centers around periods/vaginas/boobs as Things Which Unite All Women is an untrustworthy brand of feminism
slogans like “no pussy no power” “viva la vulva” “not an ovary-action” etc as stand-ins for “i support women” are more damaging than yall think bc centering ur feminism around things which only cis women experience a) alienates trans women who dont experience them, b) is harmful to ppl who DO experience them but arent women, & c) furthers the mentality that gender = genitals/trans women dont really have a place fighting for womens rights. none of that is as progressive as yall think holding up a sign with a vagina on it is, same goes 4 writing that shit on pads. not every woman has a vagina & not everyone with a vagina is a woman, and feminism which marginalizes entire subsets of us for the sake of a catchy slogan isnt good feminism
It would be nbphobic if I were dating a man who insisted he was still straight because “you’re still basically a woman anway” or if I was dating a woman who insisted she was still gay because “well, you’re woman enough though”.
It would not be nbphobic if I were dating a man or a woman who said “I don’t want to disrespect your gender identity and misgender you by saying I’m only attracted to women when I’m dating you and you’re not a woman, so I’m going to identify as bi from now on in order to acknowledge and respect your identity”.
The first example shows a person who does not respect my identity and is totally okay with misgendering me while the second example shows a person who respects me and my identity enough to change the term they use to define their sexuality in order to not misgender me (or any other nonbinary people they may be attracted to in the future). That second example is not nbphobic, it is not fetishizing, it’s a person who respects their nonbinary partner and wants to respect their identity.
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