Tag: nsfw

Even more interesting about the ace to Teratophilia phenomenon is that as an animal lover, I study anthropomorphism (and its inverse, deemotionalizing animals) and how it affects our relationship with our pets and beyond, but more and more I see how humans take our inspiration of teratophilian sex from animals outside the socialital norm. Jsut recently an artist created an alien character who has attributes based off of real life sea slugs and various other animals with

hermaphroditic genitalia. According to the artist, who themselves were asexual, the alien character initiates “sex” by, for lac of a better term, detatching one of their drop organs and gives it to their partner as a handheld. Why? Because real life slugs “battle” using their penises to insemiate the other partner. Thing is, the artist obviously reconsidered that the idea that the exchange was anything but violent.

With aliens and monster cocks as a vessel, we’re thinking about sex as something apart from what ace and trans people are enforced to believe. It was interesting to me, because in that particular case it was a literal “exchange” of intimacy that was based off of sex and gender ideals outside the binary

a character detaching a sex organ as a literary ‘exchange’ is definitely very clever, and it does shadow how trans and ace people express themselves sexually through monster porn lmao

I realize um that this might be a bad time since you’re dealing with something I honestly don’t fully understand, but I was thinking about something you said a long time ago about sexual philosophy and asexuality, and how there’s this strange correlation between monster culture and both aceness and transness. I’m not ace, but I’m a trans demigirl, and I’ve always liked the premise of being a monster, or living with monsters. And recently I’ve been exploring the idea of monsters and my sexuality

I don’t know why, but the idea of sexuality with sentient and intelligent nonhuman beings is so much more appealing and less stressful than what’s accepted as normal. And just recently I saw people pointing out the huge percentage of aces and trans people in the teratophilia tags and beyond. Obviously something about fucking a monster with sixteen eyes and three rows of teeth draws us to it, but it boggles my mind??

You’re definitely onto something, I feel. Like, transness and monster narrative is a trend to the point of prediction. Trans people (like me) affiliate themselves with the fictional concept of sapient monsters for much the same reason why these monsters exist in the first place. Werewolves, for example, can be seen as a literary symbol of ‘transforming’ into a bestial state of mind that people fear/repress. It’s easy to take that line of thought, and relate werewolves into a fictional symbol of something trans people can’t express easily through words in our daily lives.

Even lowkey monsters/aliens like Steven Universe’s concept of gem fusion fall neatly into trans/ace fascination with monsters. It’s hard to explain the concept of a relationship built on physical intimacy and constant communication/coordination that also has the potential to be chaste/platonic. By making a visual representation of a gem fusion, we get an intimate act that creates something that transcends ideas of sex and gender identity.

When aces express ourselves sexually, there’s always this inescapable connotation with sexual attraction. And it can get really annoying or even traumatic. One of the most common questions we get at Fuckyeahasexual is ‘am I still ace if I masturbate’. The answer is, of course, yes. But it’s easier said than believed. 

So a trans person explores the concept of sexual intimacy by way of an alien who lives by non-human standards of gender identity, who fucks with a penile ovipositor that dispatches eggs into the corresponding canal of their partner that fertilizes them internally, and boom, we have a quick and imaginative method of coming to terms with our bodies and our comfort with our sexuality. 

It’s the idea of interacting with associates, friends, and loved ones who are free of the expectations that bind us in the real world. Sure, we could just struggle through the dating world and try to find someone who understands the concept of platonic sexual stimulation. But it certainly would be easier to be creative with the idea of a sapient being who knows our boundaries right off the bat.

Discussing queer sex culture has always been difficult. The world is perfectly find with the concept of a guy spilling his genetic material over his partner’s face because it portrays the idea of them being ‘owned’, but if we talk about sex as platonic communal building, or sex with diverse genitalia? Oh no, that’s too much, how gross and disgusting.

Aces and trans people are the friends of monsters. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Do you have any tips for having casual sex while sex repulsed and hypersexual?

keep it fast. if your sexual life is influenced by hypersexuality, then the gold dies the moment you enter the bedroom. but if you’re not gonna say no by that point, then the best you can do is to finish as soon as possible. a reasonable quick fuck, depending on those involved, ranges from 15-30 minutes.

dont go too far from home. the walk back is rife with 10x the stress as arriving there, and you don’t want to be alone for too long in that kind of condition. make sure you have a reliable way to leave the space, otherwise the entire experience becomes a real nightmare because of that constant unreliability.

no matter the partner, it always helps to have a bit more of a dom personality. this way, you have an excuse for not being stimulated, you set the pace and the scene, people ask less questions about you just pushing them off if you don’t like the sensation of something, and no one questions you just hopping off without even taking your underwear off.

if your partner is your run-of-the-mill cis guy, the action ends when he comes. he’ll try to hold back because he knows that’s the case, but it’s a good way to ensure a bit more power over the situation and your business there. the older and more experienced he is, the less sensitive his shaft is, so focus attention on the head of his penis to force the end quicker.

if your partner is a cis woman, then the night will almost certainly last longer in comparison. it doesn’t end with one orgasm on her end, and it might not even end by the fifth one. there’s also more stimulation and sensual activity, which could make things worse depending on your sex repulsion. things can also pick up once again at random times, such as you taking a shower merely minutes later, and she’ll decide its time to fuck again and will just hop into the shower along with you.

trans-T people tend to have less sensitive genitalia aside from their clit/dick, so orgasm is reached primarily through rougher stimulation; you’ll see a lot of electric toys. our libido is also higher and more sensitive, so we reach climax easier. trans-E people, depending on where they are in their medical transition, may have trouble coming, or lack the ability to retain their libido for the entire duration. since there’s a lot more diversity amongst us, you’ll need to run it by ear.

i personally don’t like having dates before the sex. because we’re not interested in the person in the first place, why bother hanging out and prolonging it? but if there’s a date before the sex, don’t drink alcohol or smoke weed, because they’ll heighten your senses and possibly make things feel worse later on.

don’t say you’re ace/sex repulsed if its a casual sex date, especially if you don’t know how they’re going to react. at best, they could be rude and bring you down verbally. sometimes, they’ll get angry and shout you down. and you run the risk of them doing things to you sexually that they wouldn’t normally do.

before you even go on the date, meditate beforehand. sleep on the decision, and give it a day. we really shouldn’t be doing this, obviously, but it’s not as simple as that, is it? still, all this can be avoided if we gave it a bit more thought. maybe we’ll have a bad day in the future, and we do this again, but perhaps its not this day.