Tag: asexuality

frizzyhairprotagonist:

Regarding the post made about @takethatzine

As of making that post I had been just about to leave for work and only just now got to see how much the post has garnered attention. It was never my intention for the people running the project to be thrown under the bus with insults, just to express my feelings in a way that was more in depth than a few asks could convey. I want to apologize for any hurt the post may have caused. Never once in my post did I label the moderators fujoshi or terfs, I only explained that the actions taken by those running the event could be considered gatekeeping.

However I did notice that since my post was made, the admins of the zine have been very open to the criticism and I applaud how they’ve handled it.

If any mods or admins would like to speak to me privately they’re more than welcome to.

diskhorsedudes:

Like and/or reblog if you’re an ace-spec or aro-spec poc inclusionist! Exclusionists keep trying to claim that our community consists of just white people, and as a result inclusionists are inherently racist. Also, feel free to tell me about your experiences as an a-spec poc and those two parts of your identity affect each other. I just wanna connect with my fellow a-spec poc and prove exclusionists wrong.

What is an asexual sex toy?

asexualactivities:

In a conversation recently, there was a question about what an asexual sex toy would be. Now, obviously, sex toys don’t have any kind of orientation limitations or requirements, so there’s no such thing.  But the question was more, what would an asexual sex toy be, if a company wanted to try to market sex toys to aces?

Feel free to treat this as a serious product design brainstorming session, or as a ridiculous exploration of what a company might think we want based on who they think we probably are.

Largely, aces performing self-stimulation rely on tools that get the job done quick, reliably, and with limited extra involvement. Sex repulsion is diverse, but it largely ramps up either during the act, or afterwards, in forms of anxiety and/or dissociation.

So novelty and designer sex toys sometimes go the ‘extended experience’ route and create models that intend to prolong the session. That’s not useful, if we’re going for something ace-specific. 

Go-to tools are by and large electro-stim tools with high frequency. And within them, you’re gonna want to go with tools that are comfortable to use and handle, easy to clean, discreet, and won’t break your wallet. 

I imagine sex tools designed and marketed without the flippery, and purely to induce an end as quick as possible.

May 2017 Ace Toronto Events

ace-toronto:

Ace Toronto’s May 2017 events:

  • Wednesday, May 10th (7-9:30pm)– 519 Church St. (room 100): Monthly board-games & colouring social (we regret there is no ASL interpretation)

  • Sunday, May 21st (1-4pm)– 519 Church St. (room 100): Caucus Discussion for aces with (current or past) experience being romantically involved with non-ace(s). If you have any questions / discussion topics, or content warnings you’d like to send in advance, please e-mail them to us (ace.toronto.general@gmail.com) and we’ll pass them along to the facilitator.
    Note: unlike our regular discussions which are open to anyone on
    the ace and/or aromantic spectrum or questioning whether they might be,
    the caucus discussions are “dedicated spaces” for people with particular
    experiences to talk to each other about those experiences.
    (Participation is by self-identification.)

  • Ace Toronto “other Social”– meetup at TCAF (details TBA)
    [The Toronto Comic Arts Festival is taking place on the weekend of May 13-14th. Many people already plan to attend. We’re trying to orchestrate a time/place for an ace meetup point.]

  • Sunday, May 28th (1:30-3:30pm)– 519 Church St. (room 100): Monthly Discussion: Open Discussion Topic– anything you want to talk about!

Accessibility at The 519 Community Centre (519 Church St.):

  • large ramp to enter building; elevators inside
  • all gender washrooms available
  • please avoid scented products (we will have unscented soap)
  • closest TTC station is Wellesley which is *not* an accessible station
  • we regret that there is no ASL interpretationfor any of these events

justonepurpose:

ihateyoufightme:

a cool fun fact: headcanoning someone as ace is not “desexualizing” them

my orientation does not desexualize or infantalize me

stop talking down to ace people and telling us that we’re desexualized versions of real people

Addition: If you’re white and you want to talk down to a PoC about how aspec headcanons are racist because they “desexualize PoC”, consider the following:

Stay in your lane and keep your fucking mouth shut